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"The Whispers of Warning.”

  • Writer: Valhalla Rescue Center
    Valhalla Rescue Center
  • May 6
  • 7 min read

“So many misunderstandings between dogs and humans come down to one thing—communication. Dogs don’t use words, but they’re constantly speaking to us through their body language and social signals. And one of the very first—and most easily missed—cues is lip licking. When a dog licks their lips, it’s not just a random action. It’s one of their ways of saying, ‘I’m uncomfortable,’ or even, ‘Please stop. ’ This is the dog’s polite way of asking for space before things escalate. But here’s the heartbreaking part: most people miss this entirely. Instead of seeing it as a clear signal, they ignore it, or worse, interpret it as something completely unrelated. Take this for example: a person is leaning over their dog for a big hug, and the dog licks their lips. This is the dog saying, ‘I’m not a fan of this. ’ But if the person doesn’t recognize that cue and keeps going, the dog may feel even more cornered—and that’s when you start seeing behaviors like growling or snapping. And then suddenly, it’s the dog’s fault, even though they tried to communicate politely first. And it’s not just lip licking. Dogs have an entire set of signals to show when they’re feeling stressed or trying to avoid conflict. Yawning when they’re not tired, turning their head away, pinning their ears back, or stiffening their body—all these are ways dogs try to manage their environment. They’re not being stubborn or difficult; they’re trying to de-escalate. Research backs this up too. In a 2017 study on dog stress signals, researchers found that over 60% of dog owners misinterpreted signs like yawning or licking as neutral behaviors, not realizing they were linked to discomfort. And in more extreme cases, these misunderstandings lead to serious consequences. Dogs who’ve been labeled as aggressive or unmanageable often end up surrendered to shelters or even euthanized—all because no one noticed the early signs. Let’s talk about real-life cases for a second. Shelters are full of dogs with this pattern in their past. Think of the dog who’s cornered during grooming. They’re lip licking, yawning, turning away—but the groomer keeps going. Eventually, the dog has no other choice but to growl or snap. That’s when they’re tagged as aggressive. This isn’t aggression, it’s survival. And this isn’t just about avoiding negative outcomes; it’s about strengthening bonds. Dogs thrive when they feel understood. When they see humans responding appropriately to their signals, it builds trust. That trust is everything. Let’s circle back to lip licking, though, because it’s such a foundational cue. When you start recognizing it, you actually become so much better at noticing the other signals too. It’s like learning a new language—one sign clicks, and suddenly the bigger picture starts making sense. And here’s the takeaway: when a dog licks their lips, don’t brush it off. Pause. Check what’s happening in that moment. Are they feeling overwhelmed, crowded, or unsure? Adjusting your behavior in response to their cues can stop problems before they even start. The truth is, dogs aren’t trying to be difficult; they’re trying to coexist with us in a way that makes sense to them. By learning their language, we can meet them halfway. We can create an environment where they feel safe, respected, and understood. And honestly, we owe it to them. After all, they’re doing their best to communicate with us—it’s only fair we learn how to listen. “And this knowledge isn’t just about building a better bond with your dog; it’s also about safety—for everyone involved. Miscommunication doesn’t just put dogs in vulnerable positions, it can be dangerous for people, too, especially kids. Kids and dogs are amazing together, but children often don’t know what to watch for when it comes to a dog’s body language. That’s where teaching them about signals like lip licking can make all the difference. Think of it like this: when kids learn to recognize a dog’s signals and respect their boundaries, they’re not just preventing bites—they’re strengthening trust. A dog that feels safe around a child will interact with curiosity and warmth instead of stress. But when those signals go unnoticed, that’s when things can escalate. Most dog bites happen because the dog feels trapped or overwhelmed, and what’s heartbreaking is that these situations are almost always preventable. Take a common scenario—a child hugging a dog tightly because they’re excited. The dog licks their lips, turns their head, maybe even lets out a small yawn. To the child, everything seems fine because they haven’t been taught what those signals mean. They don’t realize the dog is asking for space, so they keep hugging. That’s when you risk a growl, a snap, or even a bite. Not because the dog is aggressive, but because they felt they had no other choice. Education is the key here. Teaching children—even from a young age—that dogs communicate differently can reduce these risks dramatically. Simple rules like ‘if the dog licks their lips or turns their head, give them space,’ or ‘always let a dog come to you instead of rushing toward them’ can make such a difference. And it’s not just about protecting the kids; it’s about setting dogs up for success, too. A dog that doesn’t feel pressured can thrive in a family environment. And here’s why this matters so much: those early lessons stick. A child who grows up knowing how to respect a dog’s boundaries will carry that understanding into adulthood. They’ll be more empathetic, more aware, and better equipped to advocate for animals. And honestly, isn’t that a legacy worth passing on? So for parents, caregivers, and anyone raising kids, taking time to learn these signals together isn’t just a safety lesson, it’s an act of love. It’s about creating a home where everyone—human and dog alike—feels safe, respected, and heard”. “While it’s true that some dogs are naturally aggressive or unpredictable, what we’re talking about here is different. Most dogs aren’t born bad—they’re made that way through misunderstandings, neglect, or being pushed to their breaking point. It’s critical to distinguish between three scenarios. First, yes, there are rare cases where dogs are inherently dangerous. Maybe it’s a combination of genetics, trauma, or circumstances we don’t fully understand. These are the exceptions, not the rule. But because these cases make shocking headlines, they end up shaping perceptions about all dogs, which isn’t fair. Then there’s the second group—the ones we’ve already been talking about. These aren't bad dogs at all. They’re just trying to communicate discomfort, stress, or fear, and they get ignored. A dog might lick its lips, avoid eye contact, or stiffen up to signal, This is too much for me,’ but no one notices or respects those signals. And when their warnings aren’t acknowledged, they escalate—growling, snapping, biting—and suddenly the dog is labeled aggressive, even though the real problem was a lack of understanding. But then there’s the third, and maybe the saddest group—the ones who didn’t start off bad, but became that way because their signals were ignored for so long. These dogs tried to communicate, over and over, and no one listened. Every growl was punished, every warning dismissed, until the dog learned that nothing they did worked. And over time, they stopped warning altogether. They went from being a scared or misunderstood dog to being a truly dangerous one. Not because they were born that way, but because they were pushed to that point. Picture a dog like this—a dog that has been pushed to their breaking point so many times that they’ve given up on subtle signals. Now, when someone new encounters them, all they see is aggression. The dog growls the moment they approach or snaps without warning, and the reaction is immediate: This dog is dangerous. This dog is crazy.’ But was it always this way? What happened over years of being ignored and mistreated that turned this dog into what people now call vicious? And could it have been prevented? The heartbreaking reality is that for many of these dogs, it’s too late to turn back. By the time they reach this point, they’re labeled unadoptable. They can’t safely be placed with families, and their future becomes bleak. Many end up in shelters for the rest of their lives, or worse, they get euthanized. And while there are cases where this outcome is necessary for public safety, we have to ask: how many of these ‘bad dogs’ became this way because their early signals were ignored? This is why understanding canine communication is so important. It’s not just about preventing bites or building better relationships with our pets. It’s about stopping this cycle before it begins. A dog that’s understood, respected, and treated with empathy from the start doesn’t reach that breaking point. They don’t end up in headlines, shelters, or on the unadoptable list. They get the chance to live a life where they feel safe, and where the people around them feel safe, too". “Okay, here’s where things get hopeful. The good news is, this cycle isn’t inevitable. By spreading awareness and teaching people—whether they’re dog owners, parents, shelter workers, or just anyone who spends time around dogs—how to understand these signals, we can change the narrative. A dog licking its lips doesn’t have to be ignored. A stiff body doesn’t have to lead to a growl. An overwhelmed dog doesn’t have to bite. It’s about building a culture of empathy and patience. And it starts with something as simple as noticing the small things, the way a dog moves, the direction they turn their head, the signals they give before something goes wrong. The best part is, once you learn to see these signals, you can’t unsee them. You’ll start recognizing them in every dog you meet, and you’ll start responding differently. And that’s powerful, because every time you respond to a dog’s cues, you’re teaching them that their voice matters. For dog owners, it’s about a commitment to keeping your pet safe—both physically and emotionally. For parents, it’s about teaching your kids not just how to safely interact with dogs, but how to respect them as living, feeling beings. And for anyone working with dogs, it’s about treating each one as an individual with their own language and needs. By focusing on these small moments, we can create safer spaces for dogs and humans alike. Fewer bites, fewer misunderstandings, fewer heartbreaking outcomes. More trust, more connection, and more happy endings. Because at the end of the day, dogs want the same things we do—they want to feel safe, respected, and loved. It all starts with listening. And when we take the time to listen, we’re not just saving dogs from being misunderstood—we’re building a world where everyone, human or canine, gets the chances they deserve.


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